Dear Life Coach,
How do your forgive someone if you feel that they will never change?
That’s a very excellent question and honestly I’m very glad you asked that. There’s a whole lot of people at this very moment dealing with this same burning question. There a several aspects to dealing with as well as following though with forgiveness but I’ll just touch on this one. You cannot be successful in forgiving someone if it’s conditional. Forgiveness should not come with terms & conditions. For example, if only they stop doing whatever it is that they’re doing, that’s when you’ll forgive them. That isn’t true forgiveness. You have to be willing to let go of how you want them to be or act and accept that they are as they are. I have the feeling that you’re thinking that forgiving them means you being “OK” with what they are doing and allowing it to continue. Absolutely not. Forgiving them doesn’t mean you’re accepting of their behavior and the way it’s affecting you – it means you’ve released its ability to affect you. You’re no longer harboring negative feelings inside of you due to their actions. You understand that how they are has nothing to do with you so therefore it isn’t anything personal. Remember, you’re forgiving them for you..not for them.
Sending you warm & positive vibrations, Your Life Coach
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